Today, I’m 30.
About a month or so ago, I was kind of dreading this milestone and didn’t really want to celebrate my birthday this year. It seems so cliché, but I felt that 30 seemed old and it didn’t feel like me. I’d rather just slide under the radar and call it 29+1.
But then I looked back at what I’ve experienced in the past 30 years, and I don’t feel so bad.
I started a family, I excelled in both my education and career, I fostered relationships that I’m so lucky to have, I’ve traveled [a small part of] the world. I lived.
So why be ashamed in a number? It doesn’t define me. Everything else does. Everything else that matters to me does. And even so, I could have never experienced all of that above if I was any younger than what I am today. This is my life, and this is how my life has played out.
So yes, I’m 30 and I’m wearing it proudly.
If I can give one thing to those in their 20s, it’s this… well, 20 things I guess:
- Drink the water – hydration keeps your skin clear and your gut thin.
- Pass on the drama – it’s not worth your time and only makes others feel bad.
- Alcohol is fun until it’s not (whether you know it or not). There is such a thing as drinking too much.
- Capture moments in pictures and then put the phone down to truly enjoy them.
- Do what you enjoy for a career. Your day is split into thirds… 8 hours of sleep, 8 hours of work, 8 hours of personal. And we all know everyone isn’t sleeping 8 hours and definitely not working only 8 hours. If you’re spending 1/3 of your day at your job, make it worth it.
- Empowering others makes you feel better – no matter the situation. Tearing people down will leave you feeling regretful.
- Enjoy life’s experiences rather than the material things.
- But don’t feel bad about treating yourself to something nice every once in a while.
- Be the friend your friend needs. One day you’ll need them just as much.
- Answer the call from your Dad, it may be the last one.
- Patience is virtue, especially in times of stress.
- Value your partner, always lift them up when you talk about them. You’re a team, not a one-man-show.
- Value money, don’t spend it all at once. Invest in your future.
- A healthy eating habit is actually important, so start NOW.
- It’s OK to course correct even years after “knowing” what you’ve wanted.
- Ask the straight-forward questions, don’t beat around the bush. No one has time for that, and it’s just annoying.
- Show attention to those around you. Engage in the conversation, and show them they’re worth your time.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want. The worst that will is happen is you’ll be told “no” and you’ll get over it.
- If you really want something, create an action plan to make it happen. Don’t wish your life away. In three years, you’ll wish you would have done it already.
- Embrace your 20s then move on to embrace your 30s. It’s just a number, not a way of life.
Today I’m 30, and I’m living my best life.
Bring it on, 30. Let’s do this.